Getting Ready For School

We have been out school clothes/shoe shopping over the past couple of days. It’s so strange to be doing this for the first time in 6-7 years. We had planned on unschooling this year, but my son’s medical condition changed our plans.

Hypothyroidism doesn’t always lead to the mental conditions my son developed, but since it’s what we’re dealing with we have had to make some big changes. My son really craves socialization, and with two brothers so much younger than him it can be tricky to find opportunities that work for our family’s needs. School will give him an opportunity to be around kids his own age, and give him a break from the babies.

My husband and I feel that he has a good grasp of our family values and beliefs. We hope he won’t just go along with the crowd when he is surrounded by beliefs that go against ours. He has been given the opportunity to know about other beliefs and make his own decisions about what he personally feels. We’ll see what actual exposure to other’s beliefs/teachings will do.

We meet with his guidance counselor on August 8th, and we’ll go on a tour of the school then. I am thankful that my son has an appointment with his mental health counselor later that day. I don’t want to anticipate there being concerns, but in case there are he can tackle them right away. šŸ˜‰ We had planned on his last session actually being his last, but the morning of his appointment he had some troubling thoughts. In that session we also realized that he’s counting “normal” thoughts of frustration as “bad thoughts”, so his idea of having a bad day may not be as bad as we think. For example, if he has a “what the #@$%” thought, he counts that as a bad thought. I explained that it is unfortunate that swear words have become part of everyday language for many people, but having that frustrated thought is totally normal. We want to avoid saying and thinking the swear words, and try to work through frustrations in a better way but that’s all. We can’t eliminate thoughts of frustration over things such as people doing things in a way that cause us inconvenience, or other irritations but we can work on having them affect our moods and behaviors less.

I do worry that he will have issues in the classroom. I worry he will interrupt his teacher or classmates, get annoyed if they teach things he already knows, and get frustrated if he has questions that can’t be answered when he wants them to be. I know there are many more possible situations that could arise and lead to stress on my son, but I have to think positively and not bring up potential problems in front of my son. He will stress himself out over those possibilities and not even think about the potential good experiences. Right now he is looking forward to going to school. Hopefully the good will outweigh the bad. None of us are looking forward to new sleep habits, but I know we’ll get used to it. We’ll see how bad homework is….he’s never had to do school plus more.

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2 thoughts on “Getting Ready For School

    • We met with the guidance counsellor in the morning, and that went well. We took a tour of the school, and saw where his homeroom will be, and where most of his other classes will be held too. We just didn’t go into the building that is separated from the main school building. The school was a mess, due to the floor cleaning that was being done. It was not the best first impression to have, but I’m hoping once school is actually in session it won’t be so bad. šŸ˜‰
      His therapy session afterward was emotional. He had some harming thoughts recently. Towards himself and others. šŸ˜¦ His thought about himself was before we went to the school, so his nervousness probably played a role in that. The other thoughts didn’t seem to have a clear trigger. He doesn’t share with us as the thoughts happen, so I don’t have the opportunity to help him figure out what may have triggered it. He was given homework to do. He is supposed to write down his thoughts as close to when they happen, so that he gets as many details as possible to see what may have caused them, and also to let go of the thought, so he doesn’t dwell on it. His biggest anxiety trigger is wondering what other people might think of him for having these thoughts. He really hates verbalizing what the harming thoughts are. He wants us to just figure it out, but he doesn’t want us to say it out load either. At least his thoughts haven’t become actions.

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